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Mentoring and Tutoring: From Missteps to Milestones
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article is part of the
MCKL Alumni Mentoring 101
Series collaboration.
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Mentoring and tutoring can be incredibly rewarding, but that doesn’t mean it’s always smooth sailing. From
mismatched expectations to communication breakdowns, mentors and tutors often face obstacles that can affect the
success of the relationship. However, most of these challenges are manageable with clear communication, mutual
understanding, and a bit of structure.
1. Mismatched Expectations
One of the most common issues arises when mentors and mentees have different ideas about what the sessions should
focus on. A student may expect homework help, while a tutor might aim to develop long-term skills like critical
thinking and independent learning.
Solution: It’s crucial to begin with a shared goal-setting conversation rather than diving straight
into
pre-prepared content. Ask open-ended questions such as: "What would success look like for you?” or "Which specific
challenges would you like us to work on together?” These conversations build clarity and ensure both sides are
aligned from the start.
2. Communication Style Differences
Even well-intentioned guidance can fall flat when communication styles differ. Some students prefer direct
explanations; others learn better through discussion. These differences can be especially challenging when teaching
abstract or technical material.
Example: In a physics session, a mentor might default to formulas, while the student may need a visual explanation.
Instead of saying, "You just need to apply this equation,” try: "Can you describe what’s happening physically in
this problem, and then we’ll find the right formula together?” This strategy brings the student into the thinking
process and encourages active participation.
Tip: Rather than giving instructions, teach students to think critically by consistently asking directive and
reflective questions that help them build reasoning skills.
3. Lack of Time
Busy schedules can make it difficult for both mentors and students to meet regularly. When sessions become
inconsistent, progress slows and motivation tends to decline.
Solution: Be realistic and proactive about scheduling. Even short, weekly check-ins can maintain
momentum. Set a
clear agenda for each session so time is used efficiently and goals are met.
4. Hesitation to Give or Receive Feedback
Some mentors avoid giving honest feedback for fear of discouragement, while students may hesitate to speak up if
something isn’t working for them.
Solution: Normalise feedback as a two-way conversation. Ask: "What’s one thing I could do
differently to support
your learning better?” Offer suggestions in a constructive, encouraging way: "You explained that well—next time,
let’s work on making it more concise.”
Conclusion
Every mentoring relationship has its challenges. But with openness, clear communication, and mutual respect, these
challenges can become valuable learning opportunities. By staying flexible, curious, and committed to shared goals,
both mentors and mentees can grow and succeed together.
This article is part of a collaboration with StudyUnite, a platform that connects students and mentors for
meaningful and personalised learning experiences.
